CBC radio host Jian Ghomeshi has filed a $55 million lawsuit on risk of publicity about his sex life, which includes BDSM
Jian Ghomeshi, Me and Sex and Scandal at the CBC
After being fired, one of Canadaâs top broadcasters wrote of his love of BDSM sex. Some women claim he harassed and intimidated them. Result: media meltdown.
A lurid sex scandal has gripped the Canadian media, encompassing BDSM sex, allegations of abuse and harassment, and a trusted and adored popular broadcaster.
Jian Ghomeshiâs BDSM Canlit reference
The Star has published its article on some of the sexual assault allegations made against Ghomeshi. It starts by noting that the the three young women who made them are all about 20 years younger than him. They were fans who met Ghomeshi at public events that he had promoted on CBC radio and who he contacted through Facebook for dates.
The age gap bothers me, because of what it says about the power dynamics.
The Jian Ghomeshi Accusations Are Not About BDSM. They Are About Consent.
This was the pre-voicemail era so we got a lot of calls. Along with the ex-wife, there was the ex-girlfriend, the new girlfriend, the landlord and more. I dined out on the tales. I also learned Barbara Frum had leukaemia, a very different type of secret, but a âCorporationâ secret none the less. There were lots of them.
Peter Gzowski â or affable old Peter Golly Gee Whiz as my late mother used to call him  â was, cough cough, exceedingly difficult to work with, a fact that was kept carefully hidden from the public to whom he was supposed to be an avuncular Canadian hero. Itâs true, he could be as nice as in real life as he was on the air when he wanted to, but almost exclusively to members of his inner circle or Mordecai Richler, another notorious grump. To suck up to Mordecai, who was coming in for an interview, Peter once ordered a bottle of Scotch to be purchased and presented to him just before they began their chat. Once the âon airâ button lit up, they were the best of buddies. The rest of us were still nobodies delivering the expensive whiskey.
There are many other CBC scandals that I learned about in my six very educational years there. Some of them did  end up in the headlines, like Peter Mansbridge and Wendy Mesley splitting up and Cynthia Dale taking the latterâs place. Others, far more juicy, remained strictly for the consumption of insiders unless revealed by Frank magazine.
Earlier this year, when I attended a dinner party with some of my colleagues from the old days, I told them how much I loved Jian Ghomeshi for his amazing interviews and ability to get people to talk while asking the tough questions. They told me what a pompous ass he was. I said that I didnât care. Tâwas ever so. The talent is almost always two faced. Itâs the nature of the beast.
What I do care about, however, is the smears of people who malign others on the internet. There but for the grace of God go you and I and everyone else. If what Jian Ghomeshi says is accurate he is being punished for his kinky sex life amid a societal hysteria about what constitutes sexual consent.
Itâs McCarthyism meets lack of due process at a corporation where one of the stars cheated on his dying wife withâŠ
No, I didnât just say that, because I donât believe that anyoneâs personal life should be put all over the internet unless those in question choose to overshare it themselves, which Jian Ghomeshi absolutely did not â until he was forced.
The Star has published its article on some of the sexual assault allegations made against Ghomeshi. It starts by noting that the the three young women who made them are all about 20 years younger than him. They were fans who met Ghomeshi at public events that he had promoted on CBC radio and who he contacted through Facebook for dates.
The age gap bothers me, because of what it says about the power dynamics.
The three women allege Ghomeshi âstruck them with a closed fist or open hand; bit them; choked them until they almost passed out; covered their nose and mouth so that they had difficulty breathing and that they were verbally abused during and after sex.â
This is clearly grounds for going to the police but none of the women did so or was willing to go on the record using their names. The Star says âthe reasons given for not coming forward publicly include the fear that they would be sued or would be the object of Internet retaliation. (A woman who wrote an account of an encounter with a Canadian radio host believed to be Ghomeshi was subjected to vicious Internet attacks by online readers who said they were supporters of the host.)â
I understand these fears. Iâm scared of being sued and becoming the object of an internet hate campaign, but it would never stop me from reporting a violent sexual assault.
When asked by the Star why they hadnât contacted the police, âthe women cited several reasons including fears that a police report would expose their names and worries that their consent or acceptance of fantasy role-play discussions in text or other messages with Ghomeshi would be used against them as evidence of consent to actual violence.â
Sexual assault charges are covered by an automatic publication ban which prevents the victim from being named. Those who break a publication ban face criminal charges.
The content of the texts and messages is indeed central to the question of what happened.
The Star also reported on an incident of alleged sexual harassment at work, a woman who says Ghomeshi âapproached her from behind and cupped her rear end in the Q studio, and that he quietly told her at a story meeting that he wanted to âhate fââ her.â
The woman said she complained about Ghomeshiâs behaviour to her union representative, who took the complaint to a Q producer. As the woman recalls, the producer asked her âwhat she could do to make this a less toxic workplaceâ for herself. No further action was taken by the CBC, and the woman left the broadcaster shortly thereafter.
I find these allegations quite incredible. As someone who worked at the CBC for years, the whole scenario simply does not ring true in any way. Why was the union rep not contacted by the Star or the producer ? Why was there no HR complaint? This is the CBC weâre talking about not the freaking NFL.
As for the Carla Ciccone article, which is cited repeatedly as proof of Ghomeshiâs skeeviness, even though it never names him as the man in the article, well, being a bad date isnât criminal. And yes, the author did get lots of hateful blowback for the article, but so did Ghomeshi.
The charges that the women interviewed by the Star have made against Ghomeshi are serious ones for the police and a court of law. The fact that the women didnât go to the police weakens their case in my eyes. And, yes, I know what youâre going to tell me about rape culture, but due process is due process.
My years on this earth have taught me that there are abusive men and women scorned, and hell hath no fury. Iâm aware there are many contradictory studies about the rate of false accusations in sexual assault cases. After reading much on this topic, I have concluded that the rate of false reports is probably in the 3-5% area. Unlike some people, I canât just brush this off.
I donât know what the truth about the Jian Ghomeshi situation is. I suspect over the next few days weâll find out a lot more and, at the end, we still wonât know, but that wonât stop an awful lot of people from being absolutely convinced that they do indeed know the truth about what happened.
What I believe in is due process and the right to face oneâs accusers. And if those accusers make potentially career and life-destroying accusations, but wonât go to the police, they do not deserve to be granted anonymity.
What Jian Ghomeshiâs Accusers Were Afraid Of
Three women spoke to The Toronto Star about the former CBC radio host Jian Ghomeshi, accusing him of violent behavior. None of them wanted to be identified by name. And their reason for anonymity offers a stark lesson about the effects of online harassment.
One of the women told The Starâs Kevin Donovan and Jesse Brown that âshe visited Ghomeshi at his Toronto home and alleges as soon as she walked into his house he suddenly struck her hard with his open hand, then continued to hit her and choked her.â Another said: âHe attacked me. Choked me. Hit me like I didnât know men hit women. I submitted.â Mr. Donovan and Mr. Brown write:
âNone of the women filed police complaints and none agreed to go on the record. The reasons given for not coming forward publicly include the fear that they would be sued or would be the object of Internet retaliation. (A woman who wrote an account of an encounter with a Canadian radio host believed to be Ghomeshi was subjected to vicious Internet attacks by online readers who said they were supporters of the host.)â
They explain further:
âEach of the women accusing Ghomeshi cite the case of Carla Ciccone as a reason they desire anonymity. Last year Ciccone wrote an article for the website XOJane about a âbad dateâ with an unidentified, very popular Canadian radio host whom readers speculated to be Ghomeshi.
âIn the days that followed, Ciccone received hundreds of abusive messages and threats. An online video calling her a âscumbag of the Internetâ has been viewed over 397,000 times.â
In her 2013 XOJane piece, Ms. Ciccone writes that a man she calls Keith, who âhas a successful radio show in Canada,â repeatedly tried to touch her when they went to a concert together, even after she asked him to stop.
Those who speak up about sexual harassment or violence have long been subject to public scrutiny and criticism. But an onslaught of online abuse and threats has become a strikingly common response to womenâs public statements â see for instance the threats Anita Sarkeesian and others have received when they speak publicly about misogyny in video games.
Brianna Wu, a game developer, details her harassment in an essay at XOJane, describing death and rape threats as well as threats to her career:
âThey tried to hack my company financially on Saturday, taking out our companyâs assets. Theyâve tried to impersonate me on Twitter in an effort to discredit me. They are making burner accounts to send lies about my private life to prominent journalists. Theyâve devastated the metacritic usersâ score of my game, Revolution 60, lowering it to 0.3 out of 100.â
Of the effects of this abuse, she writes:
âI woke up twice last night to noises in the room, gasping with fear that someone was there to murder me. I can barely function without fear or jumpiness or hesitation. Iâve been driven from my home. My husband says he feels like heâs been shot.â
And they may not be the only ones who are scared. Mr. Donovan and Mr. Brown draw a direct line between online threats and other womenâs fear of speaking up: The women they talk to donât want to put their names to their experiences, for fear that what happened to Ms. Ciccone will happen to them.
Itâs rare to see the ripple effects of harassment so laid bare, to see one womanâs abuse explicitly named as a continuing source of intimidation for other women. Mr. Donovan and Mr. Brown have provided not only an account of the allegations against Mr. Ghomeshi but also a clear illustration of how widely the effects of online harassment can spread, and how long they can last.
Jian Ghomeshi lawsuit says CBC made âmoral judgmentâ about his sex life
The CBC fired Jian Ghomeshi after making a âmoral judgmentâ about his habit of engaging in sexual practices that involve bondage, dominance and âsadism-masochism,â according to a statement of claim filed in court by the ousted national radio host.
Right up until just a few days before his firing, Ghomeshi said CBC executives assured him they had conducted their own âinternal investigationâ and were âsatisfied that the allegations of lack of consent were false.â
Ghomeshiâs claim states he provided information related to his relationship with a woman he has described as a former lover, who he insists was spreading lies about their relationship.
Then something changed on the weekend.
Ghomeshi said the CBC advised him on the weekend that it was no longer concerned whether his âsex practicesâ were consensual. Instead, he alleges CBC was firing him out of âconcern about the possible negative public perception, should the fact that (Ghomeshi) engaged in BDSM become public.â
His claim calls this an âantiquated perspectiveâ because âengaging in BDSM is part of the normal continuum of human sexual behaviours.â