Julia Fox’s message for King Trump & MAGA Dudes: ‘I just can’t find anyone that I want to f**k. That’s a big problem – and I think a lot of women feel that way. So I think men need to just be more f**kable.’

Attention: King Trump & MAGA Dudes, “You gotta be more FUCKABLE!”

Julia Fox: ‘I can’t find anyone I want to f*ck’

The Him star talks about why powerful men want our light, the empowerment in fluid sexuality, and navigating nudity on screen.

Julia Fox: ‘I just can’t find anyone that I want to f**k. That’s really what’s happening right now, and it’s a big problem – and I think a lot of women feel that way. So I think men need to just be more f**kable.’

Julia Fox hates the term “Hollyweird”

Julia Fox hates the term “Hollyweird”
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One of Julia Fox’s first – and arguably stand-out – lines in Jordan Peele’s new sports horror Him sees her character (and influencer) Elsie record a TikTok imploring followers to use a vaginal egg. Serious Gwyneth Paltrow vibes.

“Pop this in your pussy,” she commands to the camera, before offering an anal equivalent for protagonist Cameron Cade – played by Tyriq Withers, who you might recognise from the I Know What You Did Last Summer reboot.

“I could hear people laughing off set, and I was trying to just stay serious in the moment,” she tells GLAMOUR as we sit down with her at London’s Soho Hotel and ask her what it was like to film that moment. To be fair, I could hear her team laughing off camera at the thought of the scene, too. Julia also credits Withers’ acting and professionalism when it came to the moment she offered him an anal egg on screen.

Him follows Cade’s plight as he enters something of an American football bootcamp cult in the Texas desert, at the invitation of his idol, quarterback superstar Isiah White – played with deranged zest by Scary Movie star Marlon Wayans. Julia plays White’s wife, Elsie, who appears as a parody of influencer culture: she’s also a bit of Lady Gaga, with a touch of Kardashian DNA.

Julia describes working with Get Out’s Jordan Peele as “a dream come true”. “It felt like such a full circle moment,” she says. “When he has a movie out, I’m at the first screening, I go see it multiple times, I take my friends. So it definitely felt like I’ve made it in a way.”

Him truly zones in on the ghastly lengths humans will go to “be the best”, descending into a twisted, bloody competition between Isiah and Cameron and the men around them. It’s also a showcase of toxic masculinity and anger, two men so obsessed with becoming the “G.O.A.T” (Greatest Of All Time) that all rational thought and ethics – and arguably, respect for the women in their life – go out the window. For Fox, the theme of toxic masculinity “piqued my interest”, not least because she “doesn’t have a choice” when it comes to living amongst it.

One thing is clear – the film is definitely unlikely to pass the Bechdel Test, which assesses the representation of women on screen. The portrayal of at least two women on screen who speak to each other about something other than a man is required to pass, and Him is unlikely to qualify, even with Julia’s input. Her portrayal of Elsie, though, is a stellar continuation of her attraction to unconventional characters, after her breakthrough as a showroom saleswoman and mistress to Adam Sandler’s Howard Ratner in Uncut Gems.

“I think because I’m an unconventional woman, and that’s just what I’m drawn to, even in terms of the media I consume, those are my favourite kinds of protagonists and characters,” Julia tells GLAMOUR. “I can find little bits of myself in them to latch on to and cultivate.”

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In her 2023 memoir Down The Drain, Julia touched on her tumultuous childhood, as well as her experiences working as a dominatrix and struggles with addiction. She also discussed her relationship with rapper Ye, or Kanye West, who she refers to in the memoir as “the artist”. She recalls feeling like a “show monkey”, a “pawn”, and that she was weaponised during the relationship, adding that Ye dressed her by hiring a stylist to give her alternative outfits from a restaurant bathroom.

When asked what she would say to other women who may find themselves involved with a powerful man like she did, Julia advises: “Make sure that you have a very strong identity yourself and not to kind of get lost in their shadow. I think use them, the same way they are using you.”

When I ask if she feels like there is something that powerful men need from us as women, she responds, “definitely”. “Our energy, our light, our ideas. We’re amazing, and they want it for themselves.”

Julia has also waded into Internet discourse around sexuality, commenting on a since-cancelled Bumble campaign pointing fun at celibacy. Last year, she posted on a viral TikTok about the campaign: “2.5 years of celibacy and never been better.”

“I don’t know if celibate is the right word, because I think that has a lot of religious [connotations],” she clarified to GLAMOUR about her comment. “I just can’t find anyone that I want to f**k. That’s really what’s happening right now, and it’s a big problem – and I think a lot of women feel that way. So I think men need to just be more f**kable.”

Last year, she also referenced the overturning of Roe vs Wade in the US as a reason to embrace celibacy. “Our rights being stripped away from us, this is a way that I can take back control,” she said. “And it just sucks that it has to be that way, but I just don’t feel comfortable until things change.”

“It just feels like such a gamble,” Julia adds to GLAMOUR of the lack of safety she feels in pursuing sex in the current climate. “It’s high risk, very low reward. So, you know, something’s gotta give.”

Julia now identifies as pansexual and finds empowerment in sexual fluidity. “Sexuality is something that is very fluid in nature, and it’s always changing,” she explains. “We see a lot of people put themselves in a box, and then they feel stuck there. And it might not really be the box they want to be in, but that’s the box they’ve chosen. I think you just have to let it choose you, and be open to anybody and all experiences, and there’s nothing shameful or wrong with that.”

When it comes to intimate scenes and nudity on screen, Julia’s take is hardline. “It’s really important to put in boundaries and what you are comfortable with, what you’re not comfortable with, and sticking to it,” she says. “As actors, people have had bad experiences, so I’m just not one of those people who’s going to have a bad experience. I will make it an issue if I have to, I’ve had to before, and I probably will again. You just have to say ‘No, I’m not going to do that’.”

She adds that the addition of intimacy co-ordinators to set has made things “a little better” but she remains sceptical as to where their ultimate allegiances might lie in some cases. “A lot of the time, I feel like the intimacy coordinator, they’re being paid by the production, so are they really on your side? But there are some that are really about you and as an actress… It’s really circumstantial; it changes with every production.”

When it comes to her own dreams within the entertainment industry, Julia divulges that she would love to “direct and write movies or TV shows”. “That’s definitely something that’s really top of the pyramid for me in terms of my goals. So hopefully I’ll get to do that this year,” she says, adding that her own personal empowerment comes from “doing whatever I want to do”, as well as “saying no to things, choosing myself and just being really unapologetic about it.”

The life lessons Julia has learned from over a decade on screen and living within celebrity culture are poignant and seem to echo a similar ethos – the importance of knowing your worth and redefining what you view as a failure so that you are prioritising yourself always.

“Everything is what you make it,” she says. “Truly, just know when it’s enough, know when to stop, know when to pivot, know when to say ‘no’, know when to walk away from something. And sometimes it’s hard because you don’t want to be seen as a failure. But I think it’s more of a failure to stay in something that is unhealthy or not working.

“Learn the lesson and go, and take it with you onto something else.