New York Magazine’s Science For Us columnist Alexa Tsoulis-Reay has one of the most fascinating writing portfolios a journalist could ask for. She’s interviewed a man dating his horse, a 58-year-old virgin, a man with a micropenis and an 18-year-old in a romantic relationship with her father.

Monday Afternoon, the tables were turned as Tsoulis-Reay participated in a Reddit AMA and answered questions from the online community about what she’s learned from working so closely with such interesting characters.
Tsoulis-Raey’s AMA is a humanizing examination of subjects frequently dismissed as “weird” or “abnormal” and a macro-level interrogation of the systems that have failed them.
Here’s what we learned from today’s Reddit AMA with Tsoulis-Reay:
There’s a through-line in all of these off-color narratives: trauma (full excerpt here).

When I first started doing these interviews I would start each call waiting for the scene where the dad does something terrible…
I’d say the main theme is trauma. Usually the death of a family member or childhood abuse or abandonment. Almost all my subjects have experienced loss (maybe their parents divorced when they were little, or they had a late miscarriage, or a messy relationship breakdown.) They have all had to live with an element of “difference” which in many cases has made them have to hide parts of themselves from others. As for traits, they all tend to be very smart, introspective and tolerant of difference. I think we all feel like we don’t fit in, to some extent, and I think the people I talk to are just extreme examples of the displacement most people feel in life.

Judgment should be reserved for the institutions or systems that have failed the subjects (full excerpt here).